One thing I don’t think I will ever understand is the concept that someone has to know a person before going on a date. The common wisdom these days says that a person can’t ask someone to coffee, or lunch, or whatever…. unless you know them. Well….. my logic says I’m asking you to coffee because I **don’t** know you but want to know you. I want to go on a date because I want to get to know you to see if you are someone with whom I would want a romantic relationship. I want to go on a date to see if you want to get to know me.
The typical conversation goes something like this:
Me: There’s a woman that works at the bank I’d like to ask out.
Other Person: Well, get to know her a little and then ask her out.
Me: Uhm…. how do I get to know her without asking her to coffee or lunch?
O.P.: Well, you talk to her some.
Me: But, I thought that’s what the coffee was for? I thought we go to coffee to get a chance to talk?
O.P.: Oh, no…. you can’t just ask someone out that you don’t know!
Me: But, how do I get to know her without getting to know her?
As you can see… it goes nowhere. I have asked out a couple of women from places such as the bank or the store or the dentist’s office:women that I see regularly and would like to get to know more. Because it is a work environment, the regular conversations with them can’t be much more than things like, “How are you today?”
Anyway, I’ve had a couple of conversations with friends like this, too:
Me: I asked out the woman at the bank. She said, “No.”
O.P: You didn’t!
Me: Yeah. Why not?
O.P: Well, you can’t just ask someone out!
Me: Uhm…. why not?
O.P.: Because, you just can’t. You have to get to know them first!
Me: But, how do I get to know them if I’m not allowed to get to know them?!?!
I now refer you back to example one. Sigh…..
Seriously…I don’t go to bars. I don’t go to sporting events. I don’t go to the gym. Even if I did, I’d have to make sure it was an “approved” place to meet someone. It’s just too much.
I repeat…. Sigh…….